The etiquette of wife-beating 4

An interview with an Egyptian Muslim cleric:

Sa’d Arafat: Allah honored wives by instating the punishment of beatings.

Interviewer: Honored them with beatings? How is this possible?!

Sa’d Arafat: The prophet Muhammad said: “Don’t beat her in the face, and do not make her ugly.” See how she is honored. If the husband beats his wife, he must not beat her in the face. Even when he beats her, he must not curse her. This is incredible! He beats her in order to discipline her.

In addition, there must not be more than ten beatings, and he must not break her bones, injure her, break her teeth, or poke her in the eye. There is a beating etiquette. If he beats to discipline her, he must not raise his hand high. He must beat her from chest level. All these things honor the woman.

She is in need of discipline. How should the husband discipline her? Through admonishment. If she is not deterred, he should refuse to share the bed with her. If she is not repentant, he should beat her, but there are rules to the beating. …

Interviewer: With what should be beat her? With his bare hand? With a rod?

Sa’d Arafat: … He can beat her with a short rod. … The honoring of the wife in Islam is also evident in the fact that the punishment of beating is permissible in one case only: when she refuses to sleep with him.

Interviewer: When she refuses to sleep with him?

Sa’d Arafat: Yes, because where else could the husband go? He wants her, but she refuses. He should begin with admonishment and threats…

Interviewer: Allow me to repeat this. A man cannot beat his wife…

Sa’d Arafat:  …over food or drink. Beatings are permitted only in this case, which the husband cannot do without.

All clear now?

Posted under Islam, Muslims by Jillian Becker on Monday, September 6, 2010

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  • Asarulislam

    If you shudder with shame after listening to this, read the verse in reference which the ‘Satanic Scholars’ have misquoted for centuries to justify their perversions of inflicting torture, ANAL SEX , and inserting objects into their helpless wives. This practice has been going on for centuries. It is from Quran, Al- Baqara 223. Firstly, it refers to women , not wives. Below are the toxic translations. Do you find any relevance in the few sentences of the translators? Do the sentences make sense? Is there any string of thought? Are they related in any way? Do you not see the absurdity in the last sentence [ give good news to the believers]?
    نِسَاؤُكُمْ حَرْثٌ لَكُمْ فَأْتُوا حَرْثَكُمْ أَنَّىٰ شِئْتُمْ ۖ وَقَدِّمُوا لِأَنْفُسِكُمْ ۚ وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ وَاعْلَمُوا أَنَّكُمْ مُلَاقُوهُ ۗ وَبَشِّرِ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ { 223

    [Shakir 2:223] Your wives are a tilth for you, so go into your tilth when you like, and do good beforehand for yourselves, and be careful (of your duty) to Allah (SWT), and know that you will meet Him, and give good news to the believers.
    [Pickthal 2:223] Your women are a tilth for you (to cultivate) so go to your tilth as ye will, and send (good deeds) before you for your souls, and fear Allah (SWT), and know that ye will (one day) meet Him. Give glad tidings to believers, (O Muhammad).
    [Yusufali 2:223] Your wives are as a tilth unto you; so approach your tilth when or how ye will; but do some good act for your souls beforehand; and fear Allah (SWT). And know that ye are to meet Him (in the Hereafter), and give (these) good tidings to those who believe.

    [Pooya/Ali Commentary 2:223 Shia Translation ] Woman is compared to tillage. The real object of conjugal union should be for the reproduction of human life for the service of the Lord. Aqa Mahdi Puya says: “Do with your tillage as you like” explains “Do with them as ordained” of the previous verse, but keep in mind that women are a tillage, therefore, dealing with it in a wasteful or unnatural way is foolish and detestable. Qaddimu li-anfusikum means do good before-hand for your life after death, because ultimately you will meet Allah (SWT).


    Now that you have read these shameful translations, we do hope you understood what they implied : DO WITH THEM— DO WITH YOUR TILLAGE AS YOU LIKE.

    Perversions, perversion and perversions and all because The Abbasid enjoyed perversions and here was the great Jewish convert/scholar Ibne Kathir who was commissioned to justify whatever Kings would do. A long story. This is how they attempted to literally crucify The Quran. We Sunna-worshipers have no answer but to hang our heads in shame. The Arabic idiom and metaphor was totally disregarded, not out of ignorance, but deliberately. Below is what the verse 2:223. meant to the glorious pioneers of the First Islamic State, our founding fathers. It speaks volumes about the status of women in Islam

    نِسَاؤُكُمْ حَرْثٌ لَكُمْ WOMEN of your nation are your nation’s greatest wealth of uncultivated resource.

    فَأْتُوا حَرْثَكُمْ أَنَّىٰ شِئْتُمْ THEREFORE develop your nation’s wealth and nurture them now into whatever you wish to make of them.

    وَقَدِّمُوا لِأَنْفُسِكُمْ AND PREPARE THEM WELL FOR YOUR NATION …. as you sow so shall you reap.

    وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ وَاعْلَمُوا أَنَّكُمْ مُلَاقُوه BE GOD FEARING and remember that you have to face Him one day.
    وَبَشِّرِ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ Also, they are the source of joy, inspiration and hope to the faithful pioneers of the Islamic State.

    The Jewish- Christians and Zorastrian converts during the Abbasid era made every possible attempt to crucify The Quran so that the Message of liberty and equality perishes from earth. Wait till you read the rest of the Quran . It is your unseen paradigm.

    Excerpt from Asarulislam’s QURAN : A PROCLAMATION OF LIBERTY 2: 223,

    Ref: Lane EW, Arabic English Lexicon, William and Norgate, Edinburgh 1863

    Shalimar Radio’s advice: Under civilized law having sex with your wife against her consent constitutes statutory rape, a felony punishable by law. Compare this with what goes on in our Muslim world.

    Do you realize what goes on in the ‘brother’s’ home and why ’sisters’ are marginalized and commanded to keep their mouth shut?

    • Jillian Becker

      Asarulislam – thank you for telling us this.

      If you are willing, please tell us something about yourself. I take it you are a woman and a Sunni? Where do you live? Are you married? If so, did you choose your spouse or was your marriage arranged? What level of education did you achieve , and did you have any choice in that decision?

      If you would rather not answer these personal questions, we’ll understand.

      Here are two impersonal questions:

      Is the life of a woman in Islam, in most instances, doomed to unhappiness?

      What do you think people outside Islam – women’s organizations for instance – should try to do to help Muslim women? I don’t mean individually, but politically, through public institutions and national and international forums?

      • Asarulislam

        Dear Jillian:
        To answer your questions, I was born in a Muslim household. and I am a Muslim American. I love USA and I take pride in honoring the US flag and all that it stands for. I will take up arms and defend US interests lawfully and constitutionally. My family are descendants of the Prophet. My mother and father were both physicians. My wife, also from Pakistan is and MD. 90% of Pakistan is LIBERAL MUSLIMS contrary to what the media portrays. us to be. I am a Neurologist.

        • George

          Asarulislam , I admire YOU personally for speaking up and also the civilized and decent position that YOO personally take. However , the fact still remains that there is indeed a major jihadist movement in Islam and the world is becoming more and more terrorized and alarmed and understandably so. I have NO doubt of what you speak of but too many Muslims are silent and have NOT openly on a major scale condemned terrorism. All around the world there is terror and mahem occuring in the name of Islam. One talk show host pointed out how in nations around the world all acts of TERRORISM are occuring in the name of Islam . One Muslim scholar himself recently stated —- ” While it is true that not all Muslims are terrorists, it is equally true that all terrorists currently are Muslims”. After Sept. 11th , America didn’t see a Million Muslim March on Washington DC to denounce terrorism and speak up in behalf of America. The acts of Muslim terrorism that is occuring around the world is still met with silence by the overwhelming vast majority of Muslims. Actually the mainstream media has not truly addressed the overwhelming uprising of jihadists worldwide who are trying to force global Sharia law upon the world and Islamisize the planet. Yes , there are indeed people who are being biased , prejudiced and bigoted toward decent and law abiding Muslims and I personally have friends who are Muslims ( pardon the cliche ) and I have the utmost respect for them even though we share different beliefs. The global threat is real ,and actually the mainstream media has UNDER-REPORTED what is going on. By no means do I mean this to be an attack upon anyone but if more and more people like yourself would publicly speak out , not only in America but worldwide , then perhaps the perception may change . The publics perception of Muslims will NEVER change when nearly on a daily basis we see perpetual murder, torture, mahem, beatings, beheadings, horrific treatment of women, modern day enslavement , etc. I appreciate you personally speaking up regarding your patriotism . If only this was going on at a massive scale worldwide, then this would truly make a pragmatic difference. I admire and respect your statement———————–if only many more were like yourself on a major scale , things would be so much better. Thank you sir !